C-sections

so as most of you all know, i have had 4 c-sections.

my c-sections were not something that I ever dreamed of having.

It is also something that I did not choose.

i feel like sometimes feelings are not really talked about, or that not everyone knows that c section isn't an easy way out, that just because you can plan a c section out, and the time goes by quicker than laying there in labor for many hours that people feel the need to take the "easy way out." trust me it is not as easy, and recovery is longer, and for some people recovery can even be traumatizing. Sometimes, some experience go unspoken about, certain things you have to keep to yourself, sometimes you see others have a natural and easy experience, and you feel like a failure, or someone else might make a statement that because you didn't do it naturally that you are a failure; but you're not, because you go through something so much harder. C section take a much higher toll on your body, and its not easy getting up that first time when you feel like half your body is not in place.

Sometimes, i wonder if i used a doula with my first, maybe things would have been easy?

maybe, but my last pregnancy, even the pregnancy with my 2 year old, a lot of people were asking "oh are you choosing to have another c section? or trying for natural?" my reply was c-section, i'll get to details later, but a lot of people that i have come across, even some who are considered "close" that know what i have been through with my first two, brush it off and think of c-section as an easy way out. Even having a doula there for the postpartum support would have turned my entire experience around, at least with my first and second. I have even gotten, "i wish i was able to get a c section back in the day." no, that is not something to wish for. The recovery is so much harder. The fear of being cut open, and then if you go early, and you newborn needs to go to the nicu, and you have a toddler at home that needs you, and you just need to jump back into everyday life. Its not so easy. of course at the time of being in the hospital, is where i would recommend hiring a doula, especially if you know this will be the outcome. Sometimes, having someone that you can build a relationship with through out the pregnancy, that is not family, and can be there for support, is well worth it. C-sections are not the easy way out, and yes certain medical situations happen and therefor an emergency c-section is needed, but definitely not something to opt for when you have the choice of having a natural birth. And I've learned its OK to ask for help when needed. My goal, is to provide comfort and support for those in similar situations as me. As well as experiencing, and being a part of a natural birth and being able to be there and support someone who won't be having a c-sections.

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